As a parent, one of our most important job is to teach our child how to behave. It’s a process which takes some time and patience. A common question, which most of the parents have: How can they teach discipline to their child so that he or she can function well at home and in public?
Every parent wants their children to be respectful, happy, respected by others, and able to find their place in the world as well-behaved adults. Nobody wants to be accused of raising an unpleasant child. But sometimes it appears that these aims are miles away from your child’s current behavior.
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It’s may be the harshest part of parenting, learning how to discipline children.
Here are some parenting tips for child ways to help your child learn acceptable behavior as they grow: –
Hear and Observe them: -It’s important to listen to your child. First let your child finish the conversation before helping solve the problem. It may help you to understand what they want to say exactly. Watch your children when they are misbehaving, what kind of situation is, try to judge them when they are feeling jealous, what makes them uncomfortable. This can give you some trends to their behavior and you can figure out reasons of their behavior. Knowing the reason is the first step to solve the problem.
Give them your attention every time they need: – The most commanding tool for effective discipline is attention—to strengthen good behaviors and discourage bad behavior. Remember, all children want their parent’s attention. But there is a catch, if your child is misbehaving to get your attention, then you should ignore it and do not encourage such behavior.
Set some limits: – Be clear to yourself and make constant rules that your children can follow easily. And be sure to these rules are appropriate with the age, so that they can understand them easily. Also, you need to follow the same rules, as children are the best imitators of the world.
When to respond or not: – If your child isn’t doing something dangerous, start ignoring their tantrums and attention seeking behavior, it can be operative way of stopping it. Ignoring tantrums can also teach children that it does not affect you. For example, if your child keeps dropping her sweats, he/she will soon have no more sweat left to eat. If they throw and break her toy, then they will not be able to play with it. It will not be extended before she learns not to drop her sweats and to play carefully with their toys.
Well prepared for trouble: – Plan onward for situations when your child might have in any trouble behaving. Prepare them for future activities and teach them how you want them to behave.
Parents responsibility is to help their child become independent, respectful, and self-controlled. Others can help like: – Relatives, schools, churches, therapists, health care professionals etc. But the primary responsibility for instilling discipline in children rests with parents.
Remember that, as a parent, you need to give yourself a time out if you feel agitated or loss of temper. Make sure your child is in a safe place, and then give yourself a few minutes to take a few deep breaths, relax your mind or call your best friend. When you are feeling better, go back to your child, hug each other, and start over it again. You should not shout at your child as they will learn the same.
If you are not able to handle a situation well, try not to worry about it. Think about what you could have done differently and try to do something different next time. If you feel you have made a real mistake in the heat of the moment, wait to cool down, apologize to your child, and explain to them with relax mind how you will handle the situation in the future. Be sure to keep your promise. This gives your child a good idea of how to mend for their mistakes.
Effective Discipline Tips by different Age group
Toddlers: – Teach your toddler with relax mind. Don’t try to teach them to hit, bite, or any other aggressive behaviors. Try to handle them with a relaxed mind and understand them before try to teach them. Pay attention towards your child and praise behaviors you like and ignore those you want to discourage. Redirect them to a different activity when it’s needed. Acknowledge clashes between siblings but avoid taking sides between them. For example, if an argument arises about any toy, the toy can be put away.
Pre-school age children’s: – Preschool-age children try to understand why, what, how, where of the things. Give them simple, step-by-step directions. Reward them, praise them. It will help them confident.
Allow your child to make the choices between acceptable alternatives, redirecting and setting practical limits. Teach your child how to treat others as they want themselves to be treated. Explain that it’s OK to get annoyed sometimes, but not to hurt someone or break things. Teach them how to deal with angry feelings in a positive way, like talking about it. And make their mind relaxed in critical situation.
Teens: – As your teen develops more independent decision-making skills, you’ll need to balance your total love and support with clear expectations, boundaries and rules. Keep trying to show adequate affection and attention. Take out some time every day to talk to them and try to understand their issues, problems and queries. Young people are more expected to make healthy choices if they stay connected with the family members. Try to know your teen’s friends and talk to them about their responsibilities and respectful relationships.
Hopefully, these few tips are useful for you. If anything, we forget to say about it. Please let us know by commenting on it. We will appreciate your thoughts and make it clear for you.